I've been struggling trying to find the right words and just cannot so instead decided to post two instances that show why I will miss my friend, Vic.
Vic was a kind and gentle man who I never saw be cross with any Fogbow member. While I did not have the honor of meeting Vic in person we PM'd each other often and talked at length twice on the phone this Spring. Towards the end of our first chat, Vic stopped abruptly and said that he wished we had met much earlier because he could see us as lifelong friends. That caught me off guard at the time, but upon reflection, it explained a lot about the man Vic was. Damned, it is hard using past tense.
A second instance was a series of posts in the aging thread. Vic was back in the hospital and I decided to gently tease that someone should bring Gracie for a visit. After Vic's reply, Sugar Magnolia's insight regarding Vic was spot on!
Sugar Magnolia wrote: ↑
Wed Apr 17, 2019 9:04 pm
vic wrote: ↑
Wed Apr 17, 2019 8:42 pm
Mr. Gneiss wrote: ↑
Wed Apr 17, 2019 8:26 pm
I wish there was a way for your brother to sneak Gracie in for a visit or three. Or maybe you can plot with your nephew to get that visit from Gracie. Hospitals are boring and lonely places.
I’m sort of moving in the opposite direction. I’ve suggested that my brother take Gracie to San Diego so that she has the companionship of my brother and his family and also their cat, cheddar.
This brought me to tears. It says a lot about who you are that you're more concerned about your cat than yourself right now. Being ill, chronically or critically, can fuck with your humanity on many levels but it doesn't look like you have anything to worry about on that front.
I'm sure that Gracie will have Barry and his family fully trained in short order. As for Cheddar, I'm sure they will find an accommodation in their own time.
Barry, my deepest condolences to you, your wife, son, and family and all of Vic's many friends. I miss him.