MN-Skeptic wrote: ↑
Fri Jun 07, 2019 10:51 am
Complaining about someone's weight is right up there with criticizing folks who appear able-bodied and yet park in handicapped spots. I've known at least two people who looked very healthy but had heart problems which restricted how much they were capable of walking.
So knock it off.
Edited to add: Trump is fair game. Anyone who acts like a mean teenager and calls other people names opens themselves up to being called names.
My wife has a condition called fibromyalgia, which is a connective tissue disease, similar to rheumatism. It causes severe pain in her arms and legs. She also has congestive heart failure.
Neither of these conditions is visible to a casual observer, but both make it difficult and painful for her to walk long distances. She has sometimes gotten dirty looks from people when she parks in a handicapped spot (she has a state-issued handicap parking tag).
On the other hand, I have seen people (men mostly) park in a handicapped spot, and literally sprint into the store. I suspect that they have a family member who needs the tag and they are simply taking advantage of it, even when that person is not in the car.
I used to make it a habit to not use the handicapped spots, even though I have a tag, when my wife was not with me. For the last year, I have been recovering from knee replacement and gastric sleeve surgery, so I did use the tag. Now that I am back on my feet, I have returned to the habit of not parking in hc spots when I am alone.
As far as weight is concerned, as others have pointed out, everyone's metabolism is different. Some people simply burn more calories than others. There is also a psychological component to it. My wife contradicts the old Lay's potato chip commercial; she is perfectly capable of "eating just one". I am not. I can go weeks or months without eating a chip, but put a bag in front of me and its gone. I've talked to my doctors about this and they agree that there is something akin to what an alcoholic experiences. An alcoholic must avoid that first drink at all costs. If they don't, its a downhill slide to oblivion. In my case, I must avoid that first potato chip (pizza slice, cheesecake, etc.). If I don't, I'll put the weight back on.
There is a natural tendency to be judgemental. When I weighed more that 300 pounds, I would see others who weighed even more and say to myself "how can they let themselves go like that". I was self-aware enough to realize the hypocrisy of those thoughts, but I still had them. Now that I've lost 130 pounds, I see those people and I hope that they can get the help I did.