Roommate Issues, aka Why I Sometimes Dislike Humans

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Post by woodworker » Fri Jul 27, 2018 4:16 am

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If Jez wanted to try to salvage her living situation (but why is it always on the imposed-upon party to make the effort?), she could try to get social services involved, see if they could come up with different housing for Mama Pig and Daughter Pig.

But they sound like professional deadbeats, and the pros won't leave unless/until they're either forced out or paid to go away. Savvy landlords consider a payoff part of the cost of doing business, since it's just a matter of time until they get a problem tenant. In the cases of low-income tenants, the usual advice is to offer them somewhere between $200-$1000 cash to move out within 24 hours, cash payable the very moment they've vacated the premises. Because these types tend not to think about their futures, short-term cash offers tends to be very persuasive. Plus it's usually cheaper for the landlord than going through the eviction process.
cash payable the very moment they've vacated the premises and they sign a release.


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Post by woodworker » Fri Jul 27, 2018 4:23 am

Jez wrote:
Sun May 20, 2018 2:05 pm
Today, D and I decided to go through the kitchen cupboards, drawers, and pantry and get it organized and take stock of what we have. Also, turns out, what is missing.

There were some different types of paprika (yes, most think paprika is paprika... really it isn't), most of which are now gone. We have one bottle of the smoked paprika left.
About 1/4 of the spices are missing. Mostly duplicate jars, so no biggie.
A bottle of handcrafted vanilla extract that some friends made for me. The label on the bottle clearly states that it is a gift from my friends.
And one of my steak knives. Now this isn't one of those set of 4 for $10 you can get at Walmart. This was a set of four Henckel's steak knives that are only sold in sets of four. I'm now missing one. The set retails for $400. Of course I didn't pay that. Between my employee discount during my seasonal employment at the kitchen supplies store and the sale the store was having, I paid much less. But, the fact remains, that my knife is missing.

To say that I'm not happy is putting it mildly. I'm almost livid. I'm very close to driving over to her apartment and ransacking the place to look for my knife and vanilla.

But... I won't. Because I'm just glad the bitch is gone.
I have a set of very nice steak knives which I am extremely unlikely to ever use (I have multiple sets). I know this is a late response in this thread (just catching up), but if you interested, pm me with an address and I will ship via USPS. As the newspaper publisher in "Deadwood" said, free gratis.


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Post by Jez » Fri Jul 27, 2018 8:11 am

I might take you up on your extrication services for the new one, Woodworker. :blink:

Anyway, eviction paperwork is being officially filed today. B has been all meek and mild since she was served with the initial notice, by the police officer she called here when her and Dawn had dueling 911 calls. But she is still going to be out of here within a couple of weeks, one way or the other. Either by her own free will or via a deputy escorting her off the premises.

My only worry is for her dog and cat. Yesterday, her dog was doing the whining/howl that Chihuahua's are so good at. Checked out front, her car is gone. Guess she went to go get a tire fixed (another long ass story) and didn't tell me. So, poor doggie was in the room howling for about an hour before I finally let him out to take him outside. Moment the door is open, her cat beelines it to D's room and begins scarfing the cat food in there. Poor thing was starving. Ryland (dog) pretty much beelined it to where I normally have Lola's food, didn't find any (wasn't feeding time yet) then ran back to D's room and started eating the cat food. Yes, both of her pets were very hungry. She really doesn't care for them. And they are very sweet animals.

Anyway, I am making myself scarce. I only speak to her when absolutely necessary. I typically stay in the basement most of the day working and just venture upstairs for food and drink and Lola time.

If I can hold on for another 2 weeks without having to take any forensic counter measures, I will survive.

As for the knives, don't worry about it, but thanks :)


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Post by Jez » Tue Jul 31, 2018 8:34 am

TL;DR: Eviction filed with court. Other ranty issues I needed to get off my chest...

D went to court last Friday and filed the eviction paperwork. We have a court date of August 21 :shock: . B has promised to be out well before then. Which makes me wonder how since she was fired from her job last week. Not to mention, since she was fired, how is the procedure she is having Friday going to be paid for? If that is even going to happen.

For someone with "severe" pancreatitis she is sure moving around just fine this morning. We pretty much just ignore her when she walks through the house. Easier for me since I'm downstairs most of the day.

I guess it just gets to me how she will not take any responsibility for anything. Everything is done to her. Someone else is to blame for decisions she makes. She made the decision to not call in to work while she was supposedly writhing in pain. That is on her. I called in once for her, because she "didn't want to deal" with her Supervisor. So I called, left a voicemail and told them she was in the hospital, though we hadn't left yet. That was her only call in that week. If she had called everyday and told them her doctor had not released her to go back to work yet, she might still have a job waiting for her. But nope, she got fired for no call/no show six (working) days in a row.

D and I tried to be nice, helpful, and supportive. It's the way we were brought up. You help your fellow human when you can. I'm beginning to rethink that practice, honestly. It seems it just leaves you open to being taken advantage of. The stress is eating D up entirely, to the point that I'm getting worried. I'm refusing to give in to the stress yet. D remarks how calm I seem on the outside with all of this. I'm just very good at compartmentalizing and will vent later, when alone. Usually involves long drives or just sitting in a park watching my dog play. That is when I scream, cry, and rant at the situation and the world in general. Then I turn on the local Classical Music station and get back to my center.

Oh, and did I mention stuff is starting to come up missing? Little things. A soup mug I had bought for microwaving soup. One of D's Ohio State beer glasses that her brother got for her one xmas (other one is now hidden). My Xanax. My dog's Xanax.

Re: the Xanax: I had actually confronted her about the pills being gone from the bottle of Xanax in the (shared) bathroom. There were three in there. They are small dose (.25mg). I keep them around for when/if I have a panic attack. Dawn had kept a second bottle in her room for me. We were hiding it from the Tweedles, just in case. Well, that one came up missing as well. It was sitting on Dawn's nightstand when she last saw it about 2 weeks ago. So, that is about 15-20 Xanax pills that went missing. The entire bottle is gone. The one in the bathroom: Had two pills in it of indeterminate origin. They were much larger than my tiny Xanax pills and looked like they had gotten wet. I flushed them (yes, I know you aren't supposed to, but I wanted to get rid of them since I had no idea what they were). I asked her about the pills one night and her responses were "I didn't take them, I have my own Xanax" then "I might have taken them in my sleep". Yeah. Taken them in her sleep and put two unknown pills in there, all while asleep.

Still have no clue where Lola's blue bottle of 1 mg Xanax went. My guess is she grabbed that bottle as well. Oh, and I'm missing some of Lola's Trazodone. She was prescribed 15 pills for the fourth of July. The fireworks drive her nuts and she is just a shaking mass of nerves. So, when I couldn't find her Xanax, off to the vet for these pills. I gave her a grand total of 2-1/2 out of the 15. There are 8-1/2 left. So... someone has taken a couple of her Trazodone as well. That bottle is now well hidden.

So, that has been my last few days. Now, I just need to survive the next few until B is gone. Then we can breathe for a bit. Take stock. Replace what was stolen, and move forward.

Thank you for listening to my rant.


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Post by RoadScholar » Tue Jul 31, 2018 9:59 am

Have you considered replacing all the passage sets in the place (privacy knob locks, no key) with key-locks? Kwikset locks are pretty cheap, and they only need to work (in theory) for another three weeks or so. They can be installed with a screwdriver. Not hard at all.

Maybe take anything stealable out of the common spaces (especially meds) and lock them in your bedrooms? Just a thought. Think of it as child-proofing, which it pretty much is.


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Post by Jez » Tue Jul 31, 2018 10:23 am

I have considered it, and putting in new doorknobs is easy. I've done it tons, having worked in a hard key motel where we had to change the locks (i.e., almost the entire doorknob) everytime someone forgot to turn in their key. I may go ahead and go out and get a couple of doorknobs with locks on them. We have hidden things, recorded serial numbers on stuff a bit too big to hide or are used daily (TV, Laptops, etc). Consumables we are not even going to bother. I had bought a thing of those Downy Unstoppables. Within a week, it was gone. I hadn't done laundry. D hadn't done laundry. She used an entire large container while doing her laundry, each load consisting of two or three small items on deep water wash.

Yeah, I'm venting. And I thank you (collectively the fogbowzers) for giving me a place to do so. It helps. :)


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Post by Jez » Thu Aug 02, 2018 9:10 am

I didn't think it could get worse, but it seems it is.

We do not leave B alone in the house. Either I'm here or D is, effectively making us prisoners in our own home. Last night, D tried to have a nice sit down with B because the court summons for the eviction arrived yesterday. Legally, she can stay here until the courts tell her to leave. Which could be a month, at least. (Court is on Aug 21, if the judge sides with us, it could be 7-10 days after that until she has to be out.)

I left the house when D had her talk with B since I am the source of all of her ills, according to B. I turned D "against" her, according to her opinion. :bored:

So, D wanted to talk to her about the whole eviction thing, trying to stave a blow up. Well, that led to about 1-1/2 hours of B ranting about how she is the victim of everyone and everything. Nothing is her fault. Now she's going to be homeless. What is going to happen to her...

Her parents live about 6 miles from here in a nice home. There really is nothing stopping her from asking them for a place to crash until she finds a job and gets back on her feet. That is what family is for.

Tomorrow she is supposed to have an ERCP done. It's an endoscopic procedure where they sedate you, put a tube down your throat, go through your digestive tract and see if they can figure out if there is an obstruction for the pancreas. I looked it up. It takes a couple of hours, then a couple of hours in recovery. But she is making it sound as if she is donating a kidney and bone marrow on the same day. Sadly, that also means she could be back here Friday afternoon.

D is at her wits end. We both just want her out of the house, but we have the follow the process and that could take a month, at least.

Any advice?


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Post by DejaMoo » Thu Aug 02, 2018 11:29 am

It can be faster and easier to get a person out using a temporary restraining order than via the eviction process. Of course, for the order to be granted there has to be grounds. The two of you need to keep notes of anything threatening she says, writes, or does to either of you. Recording any blowups with your phones would help, too.
You might want to download a copy of the legal document and start filling it out, just in case you end up being able to file for a TRO.

This is what happened with the lowlifes next door to me - the mother of the whore next door filed both an eviction notice and a TRO against her daughter. The judge found a technical error in the eviction notice, so he wouldn't grant it, but upon hearing her mother's testimony of being lunged at with a knife and having threatened the grandma, he issued a TRO forbidding the daughter and her boyfriend from being within 300 feet of the premises and her mom and grandma. With the TRO in hand, mom left court, drove over to the house, called the cops, showed the TRO, and both her daughter and the daughter's lowlife boyfriend were summarily removed by the police.



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Post by Jez » Thu Aug 02, 2018 11:35 am

D is working on a restraining/protection order. B is extremely erratic. I can't say there is any one thing other than she slams doors and tends to let the cats outside. She hasn't overtly threatened us, but her behavior is concerning, and downright scary at times.

One day at a time. That is all I can do.


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Post by DejaMoo » Thu Aug 02, 2018 12:03 pm

Worst Roommate Ever
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I reached out to Frost this past summer, having read about her encounter with Bachman. Over the years, she told me, other roommates had written to her; working with them and with public records, I soon identified a dozen victims of Bachman’s, spread up and down the East Coast. Bachman, these stories made clear, was a serial squatter operating on a virtuosic scale, driving roommate after roommate into court and often from their home. But Bachman wasn’t a typical squatter in that he did not appear especially interested in strong-arming his way to free rent (although he often granted himself that privilege); instead, he seemed to relish the anguish of those who had taken him in without realizing that they would soon be pulled into a terrifying battle for their home. Nothing they did could satisfy or appease him, because the objective was not material gain but, seemingly, the sadistic pleasure of watching them squirm as he displaced them.
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If Bachman’s intentions were at first unclear, in most cases, by the time the second month’s rent came due, they became unmistakable. Time and again, Bachman’s roommates were informed that some minor discomfort they’d inflicted upon him (a dirty living room, a dish left in the sink) had voided their lease — and meant that Bachman wouldn’t be paying his rent. They considered him a guest in their home, but he made it clear that he saw it the other way around. “The effort he put into doing this was life-consuming,” Frost told me. “When things got bad between us, he stopped leaving the house, because he thought I might change the locks.” To her, Bachman appeared to function as if he were “at war.”

Yet even after all of this, Frost approached him to try to negotiate a peaceful exit. She offered to return the money he’d paid in November and to help him find a new place to stay. Hearing her entreaties, Bachman just laughed. When Frost burst into tears, Bachman pretended to comfort her, she said. “He goes, ‘You’ve got your whole life in front of you. You’re pretty, and you’re talented, and you’ve got this house — well, you don’t have this house anymore. This house is my house.’ It was like something out of a movie.”
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In October 2010, more than four years after Bachman had moved in, she opened up the bills and “just lost it,” she told me. She turned to Bachman and demanded he pay for the cable. Bachman told her he wouldn’t. “I’m not a violent person,” Hairabedian said, but rage overcame her and she slapped him. In response, Bachman grabbed her throat; she pulled herself free and ran out to the street for help. Although they lived in the same home, they acquired protection orders against each other — which legally required them to remain 100 yards apart. The only way to satisfy that demand, Hairabedian decided, was to finally file for his eviction, so on a November morning she and her landlord went to the Queens County Civil Court and put in the paperwork. When Bachman learned what she’d done, he retaliated, filing a police report that claimed she’d come at him with a knife and persuading the police to arrest her (Hairabedian says she never attacked him). Hairabedian was forbidden to go near the apartment — which meant Bachman now had full possession of her home. Taking advantage, he began dropping off her cats at kill shelters.
Jez, have D. read this article. And hopefully, she'll then realize that if she wants to open her home to more strangers in the future, she either needs to have proper background checks run on them, or better yet - just don't do it.



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Post by Jez » Thu Aug 02, 2018 5:08 pm

Oh, I think we are done with roommates, at least for a bit.

There is the traveling nurses organizations that she was referred to. We may give that a try once B is out of here. Hopefully soon.


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Post by Hercule Parrot » Thu Aug 02, 2018 5:47 pm

In October 2010, more than four years after Bachman had moved in, she opened up the bills and “just lost it,” she told me. She turned to Bachman and demanded he pay for the cable. Bachman told her he wouldn’t. “I’m not a violent person,” Hairabedian said, but rage overcame her and she slapped him. In response, Bachman grabbed her throat; she pulled herself free and ran out to the street for help. Although they lived in the same home, they acquired protection orders against each other — which legally required them to remain 100 yards apart. The only way to satisfy that demand, Hairabedian decided, was to finally file for his eviction, so on a November morning she and her landlord went to the Queens County Civil Court and put in the paperwork. When Bachman learned what she’d done, he retaliated, filing a police report that claimed she’d come at him with a knife and persuading the police to arrest her (Hairabedian says she never attacked him). Hairabedian was forbidden to go near the apartment — which meant Bachman now had full possession of her home. Taking advantage, he began dropping off her cats at kill shelters.

An extraordinary story. Really surprised that nobody "took him to the woodshed" (if that's correct vernacular for a severe beating). His premeditated, malicious abuse relied upon the victims feeling constrained by good manners and the civil law.



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Post by Jez » Wed Aug 08, 2018 3:55 pm

I have decided to write a letter to my State Representative (Niraj J. Antani) for help in finding out if it would be feasible for some kind of addendum to current Landlord/Tenant law in Ohio for single room rentals within a home.

As it is, we have to live with the banshee for at least another month before we can actually force her out of here. The court date for the eviction is on August 21. After that, if the judge rules in our favor, she can have another week or more to actually leave.

I don't see how the judge couldn't rule in our favor. She hasn't paid rent, has not job, no prospects for a job, and no way to pay the rent or back rent. And even then, we don't want her here any more.

But my "worst-case-scenario" brain keeps going to the situation of the judge rules against Dawn in the eviction and vacates it. I don't know why he would, but that is my fear.

Anyway, trying to keep my head from going to this point and making myself sick with worry about the situation, I decided to write to my state rep. But, I'm having difficulty coming up with a coherent way to ask for the carve out for single room dwellings.

Do any states have this kind of carve out in the law? Not that the single room would be exempt from Landlord/Tenant law, but that the eviction process is somehow truncated, sped up. Or something. I think if I can point to another state that has this type of exception or addendum or whatever the legal term is, it might go a long way towards getting some traction.

You think? Maybe? Kinda? Sorta?


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Post by jonbeck » Wed Aug 08, 2018 4:08 pm

I have decided to write a letter to my State Representative (Niraj J. Antani) for help in finding out if it would be feasible for some kind of addendum to current Landlord/Tenant law in Ohio for single room rentals within a home.
We have such a law in California (or at least when I saw it years ago) I attempted to use it for a client in your situation, the police refused to enforce it.



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Post by Jez » Fri Aug 10, 2018 4:00 pm

This has become my place to vent... so please... bear with me. :)

The middle aged toddler is back from the hospital. She had some kind of procedure done that placed a stent in her pancreas. She stayed with her parents for a few days while she recovered. D and I had a wonderful, nice, quiet few days at home, including a full weekend. It was lovely. B was magnanimous enough to allow me to enter her room and feed/water her cat. Which I did. He's a sweet old kitty. So, gave him food, water, and loves when I could. D and I have taken to locking ourselves into our room whenever she is in the house. Tomorrow I will probably spend my time outside pulling weeds as long as the weather holds.

We also installed security cameras the have a view of the kitchen, living room and the hall to the bedrooms. They are not hidden. They are very obvious. She hasn't said a thing about them. They were cheap little cameras that upload to the cloud whenever the motion sensor is triggered. The cameras also have infrared, so it being dark in the house is not an issue. I know she has seen them because she has looked right at them. But she hasn't said a thing.

Well these cameras allowed us to catch her urinating on the carpet right before the kitchen. She just grabbed a paper towel, dropped pants and squatted. She also grabbed a stack of DVDs from the shelf by the TV and then tried to shuffle the ones left around so it's like we wouldn't notice. All caught on camera.

The girl has problems. She is stoned out of her mind most of the time on something. What, I'm not sure. I'm quite sure she has taken all my Xanax already and tossed the bottle. Along with Lola's Xanax.

D called the police today (non-emergency number) after she saw the replay of her peeing on the carpet. (Aside: that behavior might explain a few mysterious wet spots we have found on the couch and on the carpet in the bedrooms.) She talked to a nice officer for about 30 minutes to find out if there is anything we could do prior to the court date on 8/21. According to him, we could have her charged with Mischievous Intent (or something like that) for peeing on the carpet, but she would be back here before the paperwork was done. Also found out her license was suspended, so she is driving illegally when ever she goes to pick up her junk food to eat. Also, she has been a serial rent jumper for years. She has been evicted from several places for non-payment of rent so she is now unable to get her own place and instead has to con people into letting her stay with them, "renting" a room (which she will never pay for). She lies, steals things, but has never been violent (thankfully).

On the bright side (I guess) the judge assigned to the eviction has had B in front of her several times before and knows her history.

Ok. Vent over with. Thank you for letting me have this little corner of the interwebz to get this stuff off my chest. I seriously need to go to Maine for next weekend, but with the toddler still in residence, that will be impossible. I also don't want to leave D here to deal with it all on her own.

So, all we can do is count the days until 8/21. Then hopefully we will be well rid of her soon after that.


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Post by NotaPerson » Fri Aug 10, 2018 4:16 pm

Some people are just nasty, awful, disgusting people. I hope you get this person out of your life very soon.


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Vent away!



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Post by Whip » Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:12 pm

Jez wrote:
Fri Aug 10, 2018 4:00 pm
Well these cameras allowed us to catch her urinating on the carpet right before the kitchen. She just grabbed a paper towel, dropped pants and squatted.
you're talking about the cat right?



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Post by SLQ » Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:27 pm

Whip wrote:
Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:12 pm
Jez wrote:
Fri Aug 10, 2018 4:00 pm
Well these cameras allowed us to catch her urinating on the carpet right before the kitchen. She just grabbed a paper towel, dropped pants and squatted.
you're talking about the cat right?
Cats in pants? Jez, what a horrible thing to have to deal with.



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Post by kate520 » Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:48 pm

:lol:

Hang in there, honey. Sounds like your worst fear won’t be realized, if the judge knows her. :pray: thinking good thoughts!


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Post by Jez » Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:56 pm

SLQ wrote:
Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:27 pm
Whip wrote:
Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:12 pm
Jez wrote:
Fri Aug 10, 2018 4:00 pm
Well these cameras allowed us to catch her urinating on the carpet right before the kitchen. She just grabbed a paper towel, dropped pants and squatted.
you're talking about the cat right?
Cats in pants? Jez, what a horrible thing to have to deal with.
I wish it were the cats that did that. Nope. A grown-ass woman, supposedly, did that.


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Post by DejaMoo » Sat Aug 11, 2018 12:51 am

Read up on Borderline Personality Disorder. Yeah, that's your housemate. Don't waste sympathy on people with Cluster B personality disorders. They make it their mission in life to make things hell for other people.



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Re: Roommate Issues, aka Why I Sometimes Dislike Humans

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Post by boots » Sat Aug 11, 2018 1:11 am

Whip wrote:
Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:12 pm
Jez wrote:
Fri Aug 10, 2018 4:00 pm
Well these cameras allowed us to catch her urinating on the carpet right before the kitchen. She just grabbed a paper towel, dropped pants and squatted.
you're talking about the cat right?
Best comment in a long time~ :rotflmao:



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Re: Roommate Issues, aka Why I Sometimes Dislike Humans

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Post by Jez » Sat Aug 11, 2018 5:26 pm

DejaMoo wrote:
Sat Aug 11, 2018 12:51 am
Read up on Borderline Personality Disorder. Yeah, that's your housemate. Don't waste sympathy on people with Cluster B personality disorders. They make it their mission in life to make things hell for other people.
I've stumbled across people with BPD before. She also has a dash of narcissism since she must have attention on her at all times, as long as you are catering to her sob story, giving her sympathy. The moment you call her out on anything suddenly she is the victim and she lashes out. She takes no responsibility for her actions and everything is done TO her, just to make her life awful.

She was yelling at me one day, saying I hated her, blah blah blah... I flatly told her I didn't hate her. Hate means there was an emotional investment in the first place. I just didn't like her, I didn't hate her.

She really didn't have an answer for that other than grade school whining that I didn't like her. I tuned it out. That was about the time she started with the grade school insults (you are fat, disgusting, smelly, etc.). I just laughed. I told her "Better than you have said much worse to me."

I don't even pay attention to her anymore. But avoiding her, and essentially ghosting her, means I'm in my bedroom all the time. Which kinda sucks. And frankly, it's exhausting.

But today, I made an escape. I spent some time at the dog park with my pup and then wandered around Ikea for a couple of hours. Bought some random things (dish towels, new duvet cover, raspberry Linzer cookies). It was a nice day away. Didn't want to come back, but had to.


I have learned silence from the talkative, toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet, strange, I am ungrateful to those teachers.

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Re: Roommate Issues, aka Why I Sometimes Dislike Humans

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Post by Jez » Fri Aug 17, 2018 11:02 am

B is totally losing it the last couple of days. I have pretty much just stayed to my room, or in the living room working on my laptop during the day. Suddenly it is my fault that all the ketchup is gone and I get yelled out for 10 minutes. When I helpfully suggest maybe going and getting another bottle, I get yelled at again. Then the insults start. Usually grade school level. Heifer seems to be her favorite word.

Today, I have been accused of letting her dog out of her room, locking the door to her room, and various and sundry other issues. Oh, and I stink and need a shower. Yes, grade school taunts. She did up her game to junior high by calling me a bitch.

The court date is on Tuesday. Hopefully she is out before then, but I don't think she has anywhere to go.


I have learned silence from the talkative, toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet, strange, I am ungrateful to those teachers.

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